Delilah is one of the better known women of the Bible because she plays a key part in the popular story of Samson. We read about her in Judges 16:4-9 and Judges 16:10-20. The Word tells us that Samson ‘loved a woman in the Valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah’; but it never tells us that Delilah loved Samson back. Something bad is always bound to come of a relationship where one person truly loves the other person who is only pretending to love them in return.
People who are truly in love want the best for each other, are honest about all things with each other, and are constantly seeking to build one another up – not tear each other down. Samson and Delilah did not have the right ideas about true love and romance. Here are two things we can take from Delilah on how not to be.
1. Delilah was deceitful. She made Samson believe that she loved him when she really did not. She became friendly and formed a relationship with him but secretly plotted with the Philistines against him. She was a female version of Dorian Gray. Beautiful on the outside but full of dishonesty, schemes, tricks, and treachery on the inside. She did not have strong moral character because she accepted a money bribe to figure out the secret of Samson’s great strength.
Whenever we deliberately mislead someone to believe something that is not true we are being deceitful. This is a form of lying and lying is always wrong. Proverbs 12:22 reads: “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, But those who deal truthfully are His delight.”
The devil is the father of lies but Jesus said He is the Truth. As Christians, the Truth is living in us. We should hate lying and stay as far away from it as possible because it is an abomination to the Lord. Lying is also destructive to society – it destroys friendships, causes discord, creates enemies, breeds hate, and ends lives. Everything we do ought to be done in truth and all honesty.
2. Delilah was manipulative. A manipulator is defined as a person who tries to get you to do something or say something by making you feel guilty. By her constant questioning, nagging, and crocodile tears, Delilah made Samson feel that he did not love her by not telling her the secret of his strength. Of course, Samson was also wrong for repeatedly lying to her but it is never right to pressure someone against their will to do something they don’t feel is good for them.
Never manipulate others, especially if it will cause them to turn away from God, sacrifice the gift He has given them, or become spiritually blind. Be a positive force in the lives of others.